Finding Your Footing

If you're navigating through the rough waters of an unwanted separation, you might find yourself still leaning on your ex for support. I've been there, and in my podcast, "From Devastated to Divorced," I discuss this very topic. Let's talk about how you can start moving away from using your ex as a crutch and stride confidently into your new life.

1. Embrace the Change

First and foremost, it's important to accept the change. I know how hard this can be, but accepting that your relationship has ended is the first step towards healing. See this time as an opportunity for growth and personal development. Remember, change, although uncomfortable, often leads to positive transformations.

2. Building a Support Network Beyond Your Ex

It's easy to fall back on familiar patterns, but now is the time to expand your support network. Reconnect with old friends, make new ones, and perhaps become closer to family members. These new connections are not just distractions; they are new pillars in your life, offering support and companionship in ways you might not expect.

3. Practice Mindfulness: Stay in the Present

Practicing mindfulness keeps you rooted in the present, helping to create emotional and physical boundaries with your ex. It's a reminder that they are a part of your past. This can be as simple as taking a few minutes each day to meditate, focusing on your breath, or just being fully present in whatever activity you're doing.

4. Journal Your Progress and Feelings

Journaling is a powerful tool for self-reflection. It helps you understand why you might be relying on your ex and how to move past it. Writing down your thoughts, feelings, and daily experiences can provide clarity and a sense of direction during this confusing time.

5. Set New Personal Goals

Now is an excellent time to focus on yourself. What are the goals you've put on hold? This can be anything from personal hobbies to career aspirations. Setting and working towards these goals will not only boost your independence but also give you a sense of accomplishment and purpose.

Conclusion: You Are Not Alone

Remember, every step you take is a step towards a stronger, more independent you. If you've found these tips helpful but seek more in-depth advice, listen to the full episode of "From Devastated to Divorced." And if you're looking for personalized guidance or just need someone to talk to about your journey, I'm happy to offer free 15-minute calls. These calls are a chance for you to receive personalized guidance and support. Let's take these steps together, moving forward from an unwanted separation to a future full of hope and empowerment.

And as we wrap up today’s heart to heart, I hope you find healing, feel your strength grow, and embrace your journey forward. Xoxo, Josie

P.S. Love what you're reading? There's more! Dive deeper into this topic by listening to the related podcast episode. #3 5 Tips to Stop Using Your Ex as a Crutch: Embracing Personal Growth Post-Separationcan be found on the “Podcast” tab or by searching on your favorite streaming app. Happy listening!